Being “happily ever after” is the phrase we all swear during the exchange of the vows on our nuptials. But ask the couple who has been engaged continuously in work life and bringing up with family and children, how difficult it gets to spend time together and revive that chemistry. No doubt you married the love of your life, and you are one of the happiest couples with a beautiful family. But ask yourself how much time do you give to your relationship and how often do you ask your partner whether they are feeling right or not? Relationships are no doubt the strongest pillars in our lives, but sadly they are as fragile as glass.
You have to make sure you both spend time together, talk to each other and let that romance bloom. Never forget the important dates of your life be it your marriage anniversary, your partner’s birthday or any other special day. And never mix your professional and personal life. Here are eight tips on how you can rekindle the chemistry in your married life and make that love bloom again:
Spend time together:One of the significant reasons relationships fail is lack of time. Make sure to spend some quality time together amidst your busy schedule where you can chit-chat, hold each other in arms, reminisce of all the good times together and mostly get some intimate moments together. We know it gets tough when you come back tired from the office and rush to bed after having dinner, but try taking out time and taking your partner out for dinner. Also, you can plan a mini-vacation nearby on the weekends. All this will not only give you some good time together but also timeless memories to be cherished for a lifetime.
Stimulate emotional support: Do you remember the last time you asked your partner how he or she is feeling? You know in most of the relationships you both are physically present with each other but the lack of emotional intimacy ruins things. Listen to your partner, understand their needs and make sure your partner feels wanted. Your partner may be emotionally suffering. So, Talk and listen to your partner and work on things together for a happy married life.
Never miss Anniversaries: Anniversaries are the milestones of a happy couple. They define the years of togetherness and how contented you are together for years. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to make your partner feel special. Make them feel loved by taking a day off from work and celebrating it together. Order a special marriage anniversary cake, raise a toast to all the good times, dance together and most importantly be lost in the eyes of each other. This is the best opportunity to make your partner feel special and revoke that chemistry.
Don’t let anger do the talking: We know some days are tough and sometimes you don’t feel like talking maybe that’s because of work commitments, health issues or a heated argument you had on the road with someone. But never throw out your anger on your partner. Your loved ones are the people who make you happy, rather than shouting out on your spouse, talk to them, discuss your problem and watch out for the magic of love that will transform your mood from angry to happy.
Cook together: You know the finest of chemistry cooks in the kitchen. Don’t be too harsh on each other, if both of you are working and show up at home late at night being tired. Don’t shift the burden on one partner to do all the household chores and to cook dinner rather you can just do rotational shifts of cooking dinner with mutual understanding and by this way, none of you will feel burdened and the romance will take the front seat in your married life.
Go on movie dates: Remember the college days when you used to bunk classes just to watch the latest Shah Rukh Khan movie in the nearby theatre? Well, the love for movies never dies, it’s just the lack of time why people avoid it. Plan out a romantic movie date with your partner after work, pick them up from their office and let your inner romance king take over your mood. You’ll swiftly watch how things are going better and even you are feeling good with time.
Do a little PDA: A little public display of affection never hurts even when you are married. Hold your partner’s hand in public, show them off and hug them in front of friends and family that kicks up their adrenaline and arousal. By this way, you are not only telling your partner how you still get butterflies in your stomach when you are with them but also how they are still your priority and how you enjoy making love to them and holding their hands in public. This will increase the levels of intimacy in your married life even after years of wedlock.
Take a mini-vacation-just the two of you: We know how hard life gets for a couple in the mid-’30s due to work, society and family pressures. And true love is the name of survival through all the bad times together. After all this, you both deserve to go on a mini-vacation where it’s just the two of you and somewhere you can spend that “relaxed time,” so you can truly relax. And you don’t have to lose a lot of bucks or go on a fancy vacation to an exotic foreign land. You can go anywhere nearby the city be it trekking, a mini beach vacation or a good time in a resort. The key is to spend quality time together away from home.
So these were the eight tips on how to revive your married life even after ages and make it happily ever after.